Below is the document we saw in class about the Motherís Day Legacy Project. You can reread it here and use it as a guide to prepare a legacy message to your mother and grandmothers or even great-grandmothers. Enjoy!



Ideas, Inspiration & Information
for Writing Your Legacy Message
for the Mother's Day Legacy Contest

The Something to Remember Me By Legacy Project all began with a seemingly simple little 32-page picture book about love and legacies across generations. It is a true story, written by author Susan V. Bosak as a tribute to her grandmother. Since its publication, this book has become a bestseller as it has captured the hearts of mothers, grandmothers, children, and grandchildren across the country. It has also won six national awards, including the Joan Fassler Award for an Outstanding Contribution to Family and a Parents' Choice.

People see their own mothers, grandmothers, children, and grandchildren in Something to Remember Me By. Reading the story has inspired hundreds to write to Susan Bosak to share the legacy their mother or grandmother is passing along to them, or the legacy they hope to pass down to their child or grandchild. Many people have given the book as a special gift to a mother or grandmother as a way to say "I love you" and have included a note sharing their own personal memories.

For children and grandchildren: This Mother's Day, give your mother or grandmother the BEST gift of all. Letting her know the special legacy she's passing along to you, the special memories you have of her, or how she's made a difference in your life is one of the most powerful and loving gifts you can ever give. Often, we don't find the time (or the courage) to say what's really deep in our heart. If you are a child or grandchild -- young or grown -- use these questions (focus in on one or two) for inspiration to write a Legacy Message to your mother or grandmother:

        What's your best or most vivid memory of your mother or grandmother, and why is it important?

        What's your favorite family tradition and why?

        What's the one family story you feel most embodies what your family is all about or what values you hold?

        What's the best piece of advice your mother or grandmother ever gave you and why?

        What have you learned from her example?

        Which of her values do you carry forward and why are they important to you?

        What dreams do you pursue because of her?

        What would you like to say to her that you've never said before?

        What's the most important thing you've learned from her about life?

For mothers and grandmothers: We wish only the best for our children and grandchildren. We want to pass along ALL the things we've learned about life, often through hardship and challenge. But the reality is that our children and grandchildren must learn many of life's lessons on their own. They must make their own way. So, what is the single most important life lesson you would like them to take to heart? Writing down what your child or grandchild means to you, and offering them a compass to help them find their way, is one of the most powerful and loving gifts you can ever give. If you are a mother or grandmother, use these questions (focus in on one or two) for inspiration to write a Legacy Message to your child or grandchild:

        What do you know now that you wish you'd known when you were young, and that you would like your child or grandchild to know?

        What's your best, most vivid family memory, and why is it important?

        What's your most cherished family tradition, and why is it important?

        What's the one family story you feel most embodies what your family is all about or what values you hold?

        What's your best piece of advice for living?

        What were your thoughts when you first held your newborn child or grandchild, and how have those thoughts evolved over the years?

        What is your dearest dream or wish for your child or grandchild?

        What's the one thing you would like your child or grandchild to remember about you?

        What does life mean to you?

        What is most important in your life?

Here are four sample Legacy Message submissions. The first two are from the author of Something to Remember Me By, Susan V. Bosak. One is to her grandmother (who inspired Something to Remember Me By) and the other is to her mother. The third sample is from a grandmother to her granddaughters. The last sample is from a mother to her daughter.

From: Susan V. Bosak

To: The memory of my grandmother, Eva Krawchuk, who passed away on February 21, 2001 at 102 years

Legacy Message:
There's a line that's repeated in Something to Remember Me By: "She gave her a big, warm smile and a warm, snuggly hug." That line captures the essence of your legacy to me. You didn't speak much English, and I didn't speak much Ukrainian. But we communicated a great deal through a simple hug. Your hugs were soft, warm, and comforting when I needed them most. You always smelled like a soothing blend of Nivea cream and baked goods. Your smile and laugh bubbled up often when I was around, and you would make me feel like the center of the universe, special and loved. Today, it is your love that still gives me comfort and strength during difficult times. And I feel I have a responsibility to you to be good, to do good. You came to North America from the Ukraine to make a better life for your family. I have the education, safety, and comforts in my life today because of you. That brings with it a responsibility to make something of myself and to give something back. At the very least, I hope to be able to pass on those big, warm smiles and warm, snuggly hugs. Never underestimate the power of a hug.




From: Susan V. Bosak

To: My mother, Nadia Bosak

Legacy Message:
Your most precious gift to me is the knowledge that it's okay to be different. One of my most vivid memories from childhood is being jealous of a beautiful, blond-haired friend. All the boys liked her. None of them liked me, with my plain, straight, brown hair. When I came home crying one day from school, I remember you saying that hers was the kind of beauty that would fade quickly. I had the kind that would last. I also had a good mind, and I should use it and be proud of it because when I got older, that would make me even more beautiful. After that, I wasn't jealous anymore. Not only did you send me the "different is okay" message through your words, but also through your actions. You were the first woman in our family to get a university degree. That was a huge deal in those days. You were the first to travel to the "big city" in search of a career. You were also ahead of your time in things like eating nutritiously. And you have always tried to balance being "current" with the traditional values that matter most. Who cares what everyone else is doing or what the fads are? Who wants to be like everyone else? You let me know that what I really needed to be was myself. And that's what I have always tried to be.

From: Grandma Marg Friedman

To: My granddaughters Jessica, 13, and Sarah, 9

Legacy Message:
I loved you from the moment your mother told me she was expecting you. I loved you even more when I first saw each of you. Even though we don't live in the same city and I don't see you as often as I'd like, I think of you both every day. You are my special girls. Now that you're getting older, I think about what your life will be like. Being your age is tricky. You have to figure out what to do with your life. That's really hard. I want you to know that you can do anything as long as you put in the work. Too many people think things come easy. I found out that nothing is what you get for nothing. If you work hard at something, I know you will find many opportunities. Always remember that I'll be here if you need anything.



From: Elizabeth Collins

To: My daughter Samantha, age 20

Legacy Message:
You were a baby and now you're a young woman. I can't believe it. I really can't. My favorite memory is that camping trip the family took a few years ago to Falcon Lake. Three days without a bathroom and you thought you'd hate it. But after the first day, you stopped complaining. We had a really great time hiking, watching birds, keeping the insects away, and trying to figure out how to cook the food we brought. It wasn't anything fancy. It was just about spending time together. Now that you're away at school, I don't see you as much. But maybe we can go camping again sometime? Keeping some family traditions will keep us close, and staying close is the most important thing in the world to me.


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